In recent time, I heard people make statement like “You are still a virgin because you lack opportunity” and WOMEN FOCUS will want to correct that impression first before any further statement.
Virginity is a sign of dignity and never a lack of opportunity especially for those who know what it means to be a virgin.
Virginity can be described as purity, the newness and originality of something still in its natural state. It is something that has never been touched, explored and contaminated. This could be likened to a virgin land; one nobody has ever farmed on, it is worth much such in the pride of the owner.
Virginity in human can be referred to as a state in life without sexual experience (someone who never had sex from zero age to the age of marriage). This state in a man’s life is a peculiar state, a distinct and unique stage to be proud of. The Bible also recognize the uniqueness and importance of virginity that is why Mary the mother of Jesus Christ was referred to as “Virgin Mary”.
It is culturally accepted that a virgin girl is the pride of the family. In a novel called “The Joys of a Mother” written by Buchi Emecheta, in this novel Amatokwu the husband of Nnu Ego came to her father, Nwokocha Agboli of Ogboli to appreciate him for finding his daughter a virgin. Virginity is always the pride of one’s family and the dignity of the girl in question.
However, a young girl without her virginity could be likened to an empty bottle of wine. The wine in this bottle is its value and once it is taken away the bottle automatically become empty and is worthless. In this same manner, when you virginity is taken away in worthless manner, a lot of things are at stake. First, the originality in you is gone; secondly, what suppose to be your fertile land is contaminated, when this happen, your whole life is in danger.
This natural seal called virginity is expected to remain in man for as long as she remain single (unmarried).
Choosing to remain a virgin until marriage is a respectable personal decision for both sex. There are many good reasons for pledging to wait until marriage to have sex including protecting the sanctity of sex, and honouring a special commitment to someone who is significant in your life. (Your spouse).
Be comfortable with your personal decision understand your own reasons for choosing to wait until marriage to have sex, and affirm why those reasons are important to you by writing them down.
In other word, the only accepted reason for any young person to lose her virginity is when two persons that have reached their prime age get married. It is my virginity, my dignity, my honour and my pride.
Sexual immorality among young people has become the order of the day, all in the name of civilization. Virginity is no more respected as many young girls nowadays engage in different forms of premarital sexual activities. Decency and moral value is completely ruled out as some of our young girls now make themselves available tools to be used for different kinds of sexual immorality just for material gains.
The best gift you can give to your spouse as a young woman is your virginity.
Knowing that you are a virgin saves you a lot stress, including worrying about whether you are pregnant or have an STD, paying for contraceptive, facing the possibility of needing an abortion or being forced to start a family before you are ready for marry.
Virginity is a personal thing and should only be disclosed to people you completely trust. Surround yourself only with people who respect your decision. Gradually, distance yourself from anyone who makes you feel insecure about your choice who belittles you for your decision or who constantly engages in activities that you are uncomfortable with. Its not that they are necessarily bad people, but your life will be better if you are with people who can respect and love you for who you are.
To maintain your virginity done be alone with someone of the opposite sex in situation where sex would be very tempting. When passion or sexual tension pervades in an environment, you may hastily make a decision that you will later regret. Make your own life easier by choosing to avoid you are in an unclouded mental state.
Do not feel inferior of being a virgin because people are wishing to be in your shoes. Virginity is not a shame bit one to uphold, cherish and to be proud of. So don’t lose your virginity because it is your pride and dignity. ###
FRIDAY NSE EDITH
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