Marrying Outside One’s Church
Worker: Marrying outside one’s church to me is cheating to the ladies in that church, why would a brother want to marry outside his gathering?
Haba: Is it that the ladies are not learning the same doctrine in the church with that brother or what could be the possible reason, he would want the public to believe that he is doing the right thing.
I even learnt in some churches that once you are members of that gathering you are bound to pick your spouse from that gathering because you are being taught the same scriptures, believing other religious bodies or gathering as not teaching the actual scriptures though they all use the same Bible.
A particular gathering is so know about this, they carry bags are dress well. The men are always could be identified with tie anytime they are going out for soul winning or ministering.
But on the other hand if the brothers are marrying outside their gathering (church) it indicates that the ladies are not good enough for marriage. Afterall, marriage is all about having good virtues, before physical beauty. If the men would not want to marry them in the same church won’t they also attract good husbands from outside to marry them, so that they could convert them to be members of that church.
I heard a particular sister agrees for friendship with a man outside her gathering (church) but refused to marry the man because he is not her church member, that is what she was instructed.
The same lady complaints that the brothers are marrying outside the church. This is modern slavery in marriage in some churches. You will not marry because the man who has finally indicated interest in marrying did not come from your church, you make yourself a slave to a man made law, then why do you agree for friendship, Does that lady know that the scriptures approves marriage and not friendship which is pure fornication? Such ladies are deceiving themselves.
According to a Jehovah Witness sister, they will marry only Jehovah witness brothers or no marriage. These set of ladies sometimes wait till eternity, Because the same brother she is eyeing will go outside and marry someone else before her open eyes. This is madness.
In cases like this, sometime the brother may have slept with her and while she is hoping on him seriously, he may locate his wife material outside. These are things that the so called religious brothers and sisters are fooling themselves with.
Activist: There should be no law or restriction where a brother or a sister got married. What is obtainable in marriage is the love from the hearts of both aspiring lovers feel for each other, beauty and virtue are qualities that comes from the heart of an individual. But wait a minute, why will a brother desist from marry a sister worshipping in the same congregation with him. I considered it wrong for brothers who will be leaving the sisters to marry from outside.
On a serious note if the sisters are good would the brothers look elsewhere? What are the brothers looking out for, beauty or virtue? These are some questions why the brothers are marrying outside their congregation.
But in the other hand, the ladies too are considered not wise. Why would you wait for a brother for marriage and see him finally marrying a lady from another organization or congregation? Even if the sisters are not up to standard why not for the scripture’s sake look in ward and change that sister to your taste since you are both having the same faith?
I think I can only see this situation in two perspectives; the ladies are not beautiful physically and in character and are not up to the standard brothers want to spent their lives with.
The ladies here are not demonstrating faithfulness, rather they are playing fool to their happiness and freedom of choice.
If a man loves a woman he will do anything to secure her happiness and vise-versa.
It is disgraceful to see brothers marrying from outside their church while lots of unmarried ladies are waiting to get married from same denomination.
I think the doctrine and law of confining sisters and brother marrying only in their congregation is barbaric and biased.
Students: A fool will ever remain a fool no matter what lesson one gives to such a fellow. What will make such sisters to be happy in worshipping in such uncaring religious body? They are deceiving themselves.
Marriage is the sweetest thing every man and woman wants in their existence. The more they want to be faithful to such wicked uncaring doctrine; they will be in prison to their happiness in course of marriage. They will not attract even outsider to come for themselves. And the brothers will gladly use the privilege to undo them. Sometime, I think such organizations are selfish. The scriptures should be able to tame the mind of every worshipper of such organization, if truly they are studying the scriptures with their heart. For instance, the scriptures say iron sharpeneth iron. If they are true worshippers of Jehovah, they would not have thought the way they are thinking. Give every male and female that freedom to decide his or her happiness. Divine partner could come from anywhere.
But what qualities would they want from the sisters that the scriptures could not give them? Apart from physical beauty, when they are open hearted and embrace the scripture in its entirety, the internal beauty suddenly takes care of everything. Man is really complex, always taking advantage of situations.
If I were the sisters in such congregation, I will stage a powerful meeting that will have the consent of the sisters sealed in action against the management and brothers of such organization.
Many ladies goes to church because of marriage, this is to tell you the important of marriage on the part of the woman. What if a sisters stays in such organization without a brother coming up to marry her, it then means that she should not marry outside the congregation but wait till eternity without getting married since the sisters marriage should come from the congregation?
This is a foolish idea or doctrine and will not put such organization in good light before other worshipers of Jehovah God.
How many brothers have married outside such organization and have raised children for themselves. Still how many sisters are unmarried because of waiting for brothers from their congregation.
Why can’t the elders see the truth in this issue and seek for a better way to address it. Do they know that they are encouraging fornication? This only shows that they are careless and are polished pagans.
Market woman: What for that one na talk, abeg let me hear a better talk. The woman is always being cheated in any circle; I don’t know why man will not want to give the woman her pride of place. Without women there is no world. God realize this hence he specially create woman for man. This, man did not realize.
If a brother could marry outside the organization why not the sister? Afterall the sister is a helper to the man so it would even be better for the sister to worship with her husband in the church.
Believing that since both sisters and brothers are studying together they would understand themselves better than a sister outside? Where the sisters are neglected by the brothers, I strongly advised that the sisters should accept a faithful Bible believing brothers from any Christian denomination afterall what is good for the gander is also good for the goose.
The brothers should own up to their responsibility of looking at the sisters hands in marriage after all they are studying together.
Comforter: Over the years man had created lots of confusion in the world in the name of religion.
Could the organization enforcing such a barbaric doctrine tell me which religion did Adam and his wife belong to? Even as this proved them liars they will never refrain from furthering their confusion in the world. Well, I blame the sisters in such organization, will someone tell you, you are hungry before you look for food to eat or when you taste salt will someone come to tell you before you realize it.
All will be well if all do away with the doctrine of man and abide by the doctrine of the Yahweh. ###
